Here I am in the studio with CC Thomas and Michael Sechrest of Sound Vision Recording Studios here in Los Angeles. These shots were taken during the LIFE IS THE PARTY creation! I have a rule in my life that I only work with people who are madly in love with my talent and me as a person. Why would I have it any other way? They also produced Something Sacred Here and Speak the Word, my first and second albums. I am so grateful for the talented and spirit centered people in my life! And as you can see, Elizabeth gets to be in the middle of it all. Sharing my passions with my daughter is like a dream come true.
Life is the Party
Several years ago I attended a class to help me overcome my obstacles, face my fears and remember who I am. We were asked to write a poem about ourselves that included all four elements of nature. I am inspired to post this by a MommyPerks post of a poem about her by her son. And maybe the never-ending rainstorm in Los Angeles got me thinking too. When I reread this poem I wrote almost six years ago from my perspective now it makes me smile. It represents who I want to be every day. And more importantly, it represents how my husband and daughter see me no matter how I feel about myself. They LOVE me unconditionally and can see past all of my imperfections and issues. How grateful I am to be in a place where people who inspire me to be in the fullest expression of who I am surround me. I am creative. I am passionate! I am inspired! I am a force of nature.
by Susan Kay Wyatt
I am Fire.
I light the way to truth
and warm it’s bitter, frigid sting
With a dazzling glow of loving humor.
I am water.
I softly flow and wash away fear and doubt
with mesmerizing song.
I sparkle and dance in the light of God’s love.
I am wind.
I blow away the dust of yesterday’s regret.
I billow in the sails of a thousand ships
destined for tomorrow.
I am earth.
I am grounded yet I kiss the sky
with mountains of possibility.
I grow and change with every season into beauty.
My nine-year-old daughter is an amazing child who is spiritually connected, peaceful and compassionate. She is one of the coolest people I know. So, it freaks me out to see how wigged she gets sometimes during social situations.
My daughter is a LEADER not a follower. Not a sheep. That is good news. She won’t be tempted to smoke in the bathroom or jump off the bridge when all of the other girls with no self-esteem are going down the slippery slope…. Or will she? (But I digress)
I LOVE how strong she is and I have done much to build up her confidence in who she naturally is as a person. She is a future world leader who will save the planet from destruction while being her own style maven, karate champion, comedian and best selling author.
She is pretty stubborn about using “her” ideas during creative playtime. She is after all an “only child” and gets to do whatever she wants most of the time. (AND her ideas TOTALLY ROCK!) We strategize endlessly on how she can tame her enormous ego without losing her “edge”, AND keep her ZEN… ZEN.
One day after a “break down in world peace talks” in the back yard, a.k.a. “a riff in a play date”, what she said surprised me. “Mommy, I have an evil, mean side that comes out some times. I promise I am going to lock it up and never let it out again.” She pretended to have a key that locked her heart and then tossed the key.
Then I said, “Elizabeth, what you did had nothing to do with you being EVIL. You are pure LOVE! You are a strong personality like your mama.” Then we chatted about how a great leader and friend empowers others and allows herself to be inspired by THEIR ideas. Yadda yadda yadda…
Then I took the opportunity to say, “While we are on that topic, everyone has an “evil side”. Especially… I mean EVEN Mommy. Most people are too afraid to admit that. It is part of being HUMAN. Thank you for telling me about your true feelings. Now let me tell you something. I don’t want you to lock up your evil side. You know those creeps who offer kids candy, or the person who tries to touch you or do anything inappropriate or harmful to you? I want you to unleash your most horrific EVIL side on THEM. That is what it is for. I’m not suggesting that it will happen to you. I’m just saying that you have permission to defend yourself when you are in serious danger. You are my Karate Freight Train! You are so strong and so smart. And your HEART is one of compassion. SOOO NO unleashing EVIL on our sweet friends. Let’s go apologize and see how we can compromise. Are we Cool?”
“Cool, thanks mom.”
HUG. (and cue dramatic music)
Stay strong in your faith. Meditate on those things you are unsure of. The answers are there. You just don’t trust them enough yet. SO many trains have LEFT the station. You did not get on. You didn’t understand where they were going. That is OK. They weren’t meant for you. Step away from the platform! You aren’t going by train. You are meant to FLY.
Susan Kay Wyatt
I believe in the power of our words to shape our world. Whatever we think about and speak about becomes our experience in the outer world. “Your Word is Your Wand” is a book by one of my favorite truth authors, Florence Scovel Shinn. I keep her Wisdom collection book on my nightstand. “The Game of Life and How to Play It” is also in that collection!
A few years back I was inspired to come up with the ultimate affirmation. The one I came up with pretty much applies to EVERYTHING! And everyone who gets wind of it has made it their own with smashing results!
CASH & PRIZES!
There is CASH. That one is quite self-explanatory. Who doesn’t need some more cash right? And PRIZES, well that just covers the whole rest of the gamut!
It all really started when I noticed that my daughter, being in a positive child’s state of mind was given gifts everywhere she went! Not just from people we knew either. I am talking about random acts of gifting to my gal wherever we went. Not just toys although she has been given many of those. I am talking about being at LAX heading for a mile long security line and a guard smiling at my daughter and telling us to go to the “preferred fast track line”. That is a true story. I also tell her when I am getting ready to park somewhere to send out her good parking juju. We get the best space every time. The examples are endless!
The best part is that my daughter BELIEVES that all things are possible because I have affirmed to her that it is who she is. It has become a part of her Core Belief System and a basic TRUTH in her life. Even better, I have come to believe the same about myself. My daughter is a mirror. When I look into her eyes I see the truth about myself. I finally know that I am all about love. The healing that I have experienced through this is PRICELESS.
I really do believe that I have been given the ultimate in Cash & Prizes. I never knew I could be this happy in my life. It certainly didn’t start out that way. No, I haven’t reached full success in my career and NO I am not monetarily rich…YET. I never knew I could have so much LOVE in my life. I have an amazing husband and an awesome daughter. I have incredible friendships that I never thought possible. I am truly blessed with LOVE in my life. That is the greatest gift of all.
Funny thing, when I focus on that LOVE, all of the other STUFF comes.
CASH & PRIZES BABY!!!!!
This is a lesson in paying attention & REALLY listening.
For 2 years, or so my daughter Elizabeth begs me to buy an easy button in the Staples Store. I tell her, “NO”. I am not buying something so frivolous when I am striving to teach her the value of money and that we don’t buy toys or stuff every time we go to the store. We stick to the list of things we actually NEED. We also don’t need another “thing” in our house because we are of the mindset of “letting go” of stuff and not collecting. Blah Blah Blah…
She continued to beg for one every trip to that store.
One day in January of 2009 I was having a long phone conversation with a treasured new friend, Roxy Rocker, who I met in Phoenix. She is a disabilities expert, with many obstacles to overcome in her own life. A life that looks vastly different than mine. Strangely, but not so strangely we seem to have a profound healing and energetic effect on one another and our monthly phone calls are an uplifting experience to say the least. Roxy is one of “my people” and we love each other dearly. I laughed as the first 20 minutes of our conversation she mentioned several key words and scenarios that were currently happening in my life. She then revealed to me that she had come into and was developing her newly discovered gift as a medium or what she likes to call a “spiritual counselor”. It was a bit spooky but obviously true. Then she asked if she could do a reading on me. I said, “yes” of course! How fun is that?
After the amazingly accurate reading, we found ourselves in a discussion about how hard it is to stay on the path, be disciplined, be clear and overcome the many obstacles presented on the journey to living our dreams. And that most people give up or don’t try because it is so hard to do! I then realized that we mentioned how HARD it was over and over again for 10 minutes. It made us both laugh! We were telling the Universe to keep making it hard. We were affirming our doom to the life of hardship. Well… “NOT ON MY WATCH SISTA!” And my first thought was we should affirm that it is EASY. My very next thought was that Elizabeth had been giving me that message the whole time. My third thought was to go to Staples and buy easy buttons for Elizabeth, Roxy, myself and some other friends of “like mind” on the path, which I did.
The easy button is fun. When you press it, it says “That was Easy!”. Elizabeth and I started using the easy button after making our beds, practicing a new piece on the piano and other small tedious chores in the house. Imagine using it for the REAL hard stuff.
For my one friend who is concerned about making lots of money, I instructed her to say “money” after the “that was easy” part.
How HARD can it be to take one step at a time? How HARD can it be to face rejection? How HARD can it be to keep trying and never give up? How HARD can it be to give up something that isn’t your path to embark on the thing that is? How HARD can it be to say YES to your passions, talents and dreams? I think it would be much harder to NOT achieve your life’s purpose. It would be much HARDER to have regret about what you weren’t brave enough to do or too lazy to do.
Yes, another life lesson like a pie in my face! Of course I needed the reminder of something I already knew but seemed to have forgotten.
The lesson: What words am I speaking about my life? Am I focusing on the impossible or endless possibilities? I am being given messages and inspirations every day. I just have to really listen and take it personally. The answers are here right now.
Just pay attention, ask and listen carefully.
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My daughter sees me in my “Plain Jane” persona 99% of the time. AND as a performer my whole life, it wasn’t until the last decade that I decided I was pretty without any make-up on at all. A huge deal if you are in the “Biz”. We get so used to seeing ourselves made up for stage that seeing our “natural selves” is a tough pill to swallow. I have raised my daughter to understand her natural beauty is… GORGEOUS! And I have grown to feel that same way about myself. But I still have to get “dolled up” to perform on stage so I can be seen under extremely bright lights. And my daughter gets to see me getting ready which includes not just the make up and hair… but…. wait for it…. THE SHOES!!!! Even if I don’t have a hot date with daddy, or a show to do I sometimes pull out my sexy, sassy shoes and model them for her. She loves to see me act like a model on the catwalk while telling her that she’s got game too. Then she HAS to try on my shoes and “strut her stuff”. We end up demonstrating Karate moves in high heels because that is part of our “wicky wacky” nature. She’s my Tom Boy for sure. Just like her mom. But a little sugar in with the spice is a very delicious combo for a woman to have. I want her to embrace it all. I can see she already does. Now I ask her which shoes look best with my outfits. Turns out, my gal has a great eye for fashion. Go Figure.
BOTTOM LINE BCBG Paris Killer Rhinestone Studded High Heels: $90.00 (Designer Shoe Warehouse) Mother Daughter Bonding Time: PRICELESS